Male - Female Differences in Cats

Let's talk about male and female cats. What kind of behavior do boy or girl Maine Coons exhibit, and how do they get along?

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Female & Male Cats

by: Allie Winter
(Sidney, OH)

I have a 9 1/2 month old kitten, she's female & I wanted her to have company.

I know someone who's giving away a male 6 year old Maine Coon. What I need to know is how do male Maine Coons act toward kittens....

Hi Allie,

We got our two Maine Coons at the same time, so I can only refer to generalizations.

In general, male Maine Coon cats are about as laid-back and easy going as can be. I would think he would have loads of patience.

But, and this is a big but, you are bringing him into your home, a whole new environment with all new people. He won't have bonded with you yet. He'll be quite confused as to why his whole world has just changed.

(That's a totally different scenario than having a male Maine Coon & bringing home a feisty kitten.)

So, with that said, you want a friend for your little one. After the introductory period, I can think of no better friend than a six year old Maine Coon boy.

I would say go for it, and make sure to follow the recommendations in our Introducing A Kitten article.

Don't forget to clip both their claws regularly to avoid any injuries before they make friends.

Good luck!
All The Best,

PS- If other visitors to this page have been through a similar situation, please share your experience with Allie!


My thoughts
by: Kim Sweet

I have a 6 mo old Maine Coon and a 5 month old Maine Coon mix along with 2 other cats right now. Makani is the most laid back guy and even though he is twice the size of Ivan (the younger mix)he seems to take it easy on him playing and such.

Once they got to know each other and realized we love them all the same it was not an issue. I think the biggest thing is to make the new guy feel welcome AND making sure the cat(s) or what ever other critters you have in the home feel loved and wanted just as much if not a little more for a while til they all chill out and feel comfortable.

That is my two cents... GOOD LUCK :)

also to add..
by: Kim Sweet

We had a 4 yr old female mix when we got Ivan at age 9 wks. We then adopted Makani when he was 5 months old making Ivan 4 months. Both these guys have profiles on here if your interested in reading a bit more of the story.

Just take it slow, maybe give the new member a place to feel safe at, like a spare room or your room that you can keep the door closed for a day or two so it can get ues to the place then introduce the other critters (cat) slowly... that seem to work for us.

It can all depend on the cats personality too.. Can you make a deal with the person that has the MC now that if it doesn't work out they will take him back ??

Like I mentioned GOOD LUCK...

Male & Female Cats
by: Kc Harloff

Age has no bearing to a cat. They will most likely bond. Just remember to treat your first cat as #1 in your life.

Male Versus Female Maine Coon

I am about to adopt a Maine Coon kitten and I get conflicting reports in terms of the characteristics of these wonderful animals. I wonder if you can help?

Male Maine Coons are more friendly, playful, interactive and sociable whereas female MC's are more likely to be aloof

Male Maine Coons are likely to spray (as much as other breeds) - even if they are neutered at the appropriate age.

Male Maine Coons are more likely to bond with one person whereas a female is more likely to be a family cat.

Warm regards as a future member of the Maine Coon Community!

Johannesburg, South Africa

Hi James!

Welcome to our community, I think you will like it here!

Well, as for male vs. female, those are some interesting observations. I guess they are not wrong, but they are broad generalizations to the point that one shouldn't expect their cat to fall into either of those categories.


Male vs. Female
by: Dean

I pretty much agree with everything that has been said. We have a male and a female and I think they pretty much behave as expected. The male is more the leader, at least as long as he doesn't do anything the female disagrees with. In our case, he is MUCH bigger than she (about twice as big!).

She is slightly more aloof but at the same time she will surprise us sometimes with how much of a lap cat she can be. All in all, they are both very wonderful, loving, curious, and intelligent companions.

To Carrie
by: James

Thank you so very much for your information - what you have told me is hugely interesting. The kitten i am adopting is a registered pure bred MC - and i can hardly wait to see him when he gets here and joins my family. I will post some pictures.

Warm regards from South Africa!

by: Frances

My coonie boy was neutered at 5.5 mths, But shortly before this he learned to use the cat flap,(I also have 3 moggy cats) and since the day he went out, rain or shine I've never seen him toilet indoors.

I know a lot of folks say they should be in door cats but he loves being out. He comes home for fuss to watch tv and have his special maine coon Royal Canin. He mainly sits on us if we are having a lay in, or are laying on the sofa, I think there is just more room on a whole body, than just a lap!

All cats other than breeders should be neutered, as a member of the cats protection in the u.k. I know there are far too many unwanted kittens and irresponsible owners.

Back to the subject, my MC is a boy, but I have 2 girls 2 boys in total and not 1 of them has the same traits. They are the best 4 cats in the world! (=^-^=)

Male Coons
by: Sharon

I have three Pedigreed male ME coons so can't speak about females. One thing I will pass on is that we got our boys at intervals ( they are 13, 10 and 4now). Our two oldest were neutered at 6 months and the youngest at 9 months. None have ever sprayed. We did have integration issues with the third but no spraying. All three are clowns - happy, silly boys now.

What kind of plumbing?
by: Helen

Each and every cat, boy or girl, is their own purr-son. If you can get the opportunity to play with the litter of kittens, then one will pick you, not the other way round. That's the one for you. I've not found the "plumbing" to make a big difference. Go with your heart.

Male vs. Female

We are planning to adopt a Maine Coon kitten and don't know whether to choose a male or female. We have one adult female.


Over the years, my family has added a cat here or there. I haven't noticed a difference between a girl kitten or boy kitten joining the family.

I suppose how the kitten adjusts depends mostly on your present female. I think, to her, a kitten is a kitten.

And a female Maine Coon kitten will be very much the same as a male. Over time, some differences might include size of course, and females tend to act a little more "mature," but overall I think you'll be pleased either way! And maybe, just maybe a female might be less inclined to pester your adult girl, but it could go the other way too!

All The Best With Your New Addition!


Male Maine Coon
I had a male Maine Coon. He was adorable and very friendly. Males grow to be about 4 lbs (1.9 kilo). larger and longer than the female.

Males seem more laid back!!
Hi there,
I have always had female cats and about seven years ago I adopted a new kitten thinking it was yet another female. Well it didn't take me long to figure out that I had a male on my hands but i had already grown to love him and went with it.

Turns out he was part Maine Coon..and honestly the best pet I ever had. I do think it was partially because of his Maine Coone heritage but I also found that male cats are much easier going...not as uptight as females.

I recently lost my beloved boy. Since I have acquired a pure bred Maine Coone male. He is actually MUCH MUCH different than the other lad but being a male he is again...a lot more laid back.

I still love my big old female mind you but I lean more towards the males now. Only thing for sure... is to have him altered.


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